The natural glow, the expected insecurities, the increasing fears of not being fit, it’s all part of the package. You’re on your way to starting a wonderful journey: motherhood. Scared already? It’s completely normal. I’ve been there too. The following are a few things I wish I knew before I became a mom.
It’s OK to ask for help
First moms tend to bear this inner burden/responsibility that they have to prove others they’re fit for motherhood. All the bottled-up emotions usually cloud their judgment into thinking that when people offer to help around, it is for other reasons than to genuinely ease their load. Except for your mother-in-law. Just kidding! You can always use the extra hand! Next time someone offers to hold your baby for you, take those precious free minutes and turn them into anything that will let you rest -a nap, a walk down the park, tea time, a phone call to a friend, you name it! You won’t regret it.
Trust your gut!
When you have your first child, you’ll be thirsty for information. It’s that time in your life when knowledge is not just power, it’s also peace of mind! Read as much as you can. When fright wants to take over (and you’ve already been to the doctor twice), go for your gut. Trust us, that impulse we call the “motherly instinct” –our very own feminine version of “The Force”- is always right. Start to learn to trust it from now on and you’ll avoid a lot of headaches later.
You are ready (even if you feel you’re not)
Maybe you feel you’re too young, or too old, or very inexperienced. Perhaps the timing for this child was not the best and it seems extremely overwhelming. You probably don’t know the first thing about raising a kid. But, what parent does? Motherhood is the most beautiful –and scary- time of your life. Embrace it, learn from it, and accept it. Most importantly, enjoy the little person who will someday want to be just like you. Love each and every moment, because time does fly!
Not everything that works for most moms works for you
Listen to all advice, but put everything –and we mean everything- to the test. Science may be reliable, but this is a special, unique little person you’re raising. Therefore, just because a few tips work wonders for the average mom, there is no guarantee they will work for you. One fascinating thing about motherhood is that you will become an expert of yourself and your child’s needs. Receive counsel, but ultimately, you’ll make the call.
Second hand stores are actual life savers!
Breaking News: baby clothing is expensive. And we’re not just talking designer brands. Regular items such as diapers, strollers, cribs or onesies come increasingly over-priced these days. A practical mom will ask her relatives for every possible used item the first few months. Your baby will grow out of most of it anyways! So don’t feel cheap for venturing through Goodwill or The Salvation Army in search of a cozy snow suit. A second hand store is as good as the neighborhood it’s located in. Follow groups on social networks that promote fairs and garage sales and become a sales-hunting expert!